I Thought I Was Through With This.
So, I got home last night and, while I was gone, I received my tax return check.
Let me tell you a story about doing taxes. This year is the last year I had to file with the ex. She came over and I did our taxes, paid for the programs and paid one state and federal. The other state owed us almost what had to be paid the other 2. In order to make it EASY, I wrote the checks(she had no money anyway) and told her when the other one came I would just have her sign it and that would be it.
Got my check, left the ex a text message(easier this way, we don't talk so no one gets too pissed). She gets back to me. Says she wants the rest of the stuff she still has at the house. Great, good riddance, more room for me. Here's the catch. We had 2 sets of 6 in a certain dish from IKEA. There are no IKEAs around here and she wanted the dishes. I said I would give her a set cuz I don't need 2. All this over text messaging. She calls, being a bitch, yelling as soon as I answer, about me just doing this to be a dick and I don't need them, and how I still go to Philly and can get them. Fuck that. Why should I have to replace everything that I pretty much paid for in the first place(for those of you who don't know her, she is a lazy bitch, who couldn't keep a job and NEVER helped financially, and for the most part I let her get away with it without very much bitching myself). Hell, when we split we also had another set of dishes that semi matched this stuff and she kept it, I was supposed to get these dishes. I don't mind giving up one set. What single fucking person needs 12 fucking dishes unless they are too fucking lazy to wash them when they use them?(sorry, just another issue I had when married and coming home from trips to find shit growing in my sink)
Where does she get off, calling me and bitchin about me doin this to be difficult? Difficult was dealing with her shit for 8 fucking years. If I wanted to be difficult I could have takin her to the cleaners during our divorce. She could be putting me through school and helping support me, like I did for her for all those years(I know someone who did this to their ex), but that aint me. I don't need the hassle of being difficult, but, I am not gonna give the bitch everything just cuz she wants it. I did that while we were married and obviously that worked out great.
FUCK I need to stop letting her ruin my day off. Any suggestions(other than telling her where to stick it, cuz, I did that when she called(at least she is now as pissed as I am) and really as good as that feels, it pisses me off to still have to deal with this shit.)? From the Steph I predict: "Bag of nickels."
posted by Larry @ 11:02 AM
21 Comments:
Dishes? Shoot, give up the dishes and buy some paper plates. Less washing.
Seems like a small price to pay to be rid of a large annoyance.
But, I'm a wimp, so what do I know?
Yeah, originally I wasn't doin it to be a dick. But, like I said, I gave her everything when we were married I don't think I should have to give her everything now. She can either find someone else to leech off of or become a productive member of society herself. She only wants both sets cuz she doesn't know how to operate a dishwasher.
just send her the one set as-is, or send her both sets COD.
The more I think about it, sending her both sets is kind of a fitting punishment. Now she'll have to do all 12 sets and you can buy something nice for yourself that doesn't remind her of all the crap you put up with.
When my ex and I split up, I loved her cookware, but I found a deal on better stuff than hers and then she coveted mine. I felt better. I got some snazzy kitchen stuff, too.
New Kitchen Stuff = Worth Weight in Gold
Yeah, I love this stuff though. It is simple and durable. Plus, fuck her, I am tired of makin jer life easy. It wasn't about that, I actully just didn't want replace dishes as well as furniture and other little shit that I have to already. I can afford to, don't see the point. Now, though, fuck it, I will be difficult cuz I can be.
Speaking as someone who has been through this. Send her both sets of dishes, in the US Mail, with very little packaging and make sure what packaging you do use is the type of newspaper that smears all over everything. So the very first thing she'll have to do is go through the dishes to find out what's not broken and then wash whatever's left.
Mossy's right - just give up the dishes and then you don't have to look at them and think of her. Go out and buy yourself some funky bachelor style dishes. You only need a set of four, for goodness sakes, right?
What happened with the cheque from her, by the way? Do you have it yet? Is there a guarantee you're going to get it? Can you tell her to send the money via Western Union or, perhaps, certified cheque, money order, or can she transfer the funds directly into your account? I wouldn't send her a fucking thing until you see the money.
My ex never remembers to pay anything on time and Mossy and I have covered his ass many times. I can't tell the ex to go get stuffed because of the kids, but believe me, sometimes it's very tempting. Like when he came over this weekend - 2 years after moving out - to pick up the rest of his stuff that I had been storing in the basement. Mossy and I had brought it up (well, mostly Mossy) to the garage and put it together in a neat pile. The ex and his girlfriend were piling it into a borrowed van when I came out. I noticed that the fucker had tucked the camping equipment into the van.
I bought this camping equipment when we were still married so he could take the kids camping for the weekend and I could get some peace and quiet.
If he had asked for it, I would have said, "Take it." What burned my ass is that he helped himself, without asking and without commenting. Fuckwit. I made a comment about it so he knew that I knew he took it.
Odds are that he'll never use it either cuz his new girlfriend Ms. High Maintenance Model/Stewardess won't camp. I think he tried to take it as a Fuck You. Well, considering I married an incredible guy who treats me better than he ever did and whom my children love dearly, I think I get to tell him the ultimate Fuck You.
Anyway, back on topic, getting rid of dishes and getting your money back is worth it. You'll be rid of the bitch and can go on with life.
PS If you need something from Ikea, let me know. They deliver up here and I'll send the stuff down to you. It'd probably be cheaper here with the Canadian dollar anyway.
Y'all, I can attest that Larry's ex-bitch was exactly like he says she was. It actually doesn't surprise me that she's causing him more grief, because truly, that's what she's best at. She had all those years of practice, after all. Larry's the nicest guy I know, and a great brother, and doesn't deserve this kind of treatment. Fuck that bitch. It upsets me that he's upset, and I'm pissed that she has that kind of power in our family...still.
Larry: I think Penny's right - don't give her a DAMN THING until she gives you the check that she owes you. Until then? "Bag of nickels." Maybe even TWO bags. You get one, and I get one.
Yeah see the dishes won't remind me of her. I hate shopping, hate buying things that aren't gadgets, movies, music, travel, or sport related. Hell I m even dreading buying my car.
I just don't feel I need to replace shit that I bought in the first place. The ultimate fuck you here, is that she is dirt poor and probably can't afford more and the fact that she thinks she needs all 12 plates/saucers/bowls is idiotic.
I hold the check so it would not be sent to her. she has no problem "forging" my signature, we almost got divorced our first year of marriage cuz she signed me up for a credit card and signed my name,. i told her if he did it again I would prosecute for fraud. I don't take that stuff lightly. My credit was bad enough I didn't need another card for her to run up the balance on that I would have to pay. I dont trust her to have it sent to her and I wont sign her name even though that would have been easier to do.
She will come over tonight to sign it and pick up her shit and thing may boil over a little bit, but, hopefully, this is last of it.
Let us know how it goes, Larry, and remember: this may be the last time you have to see her face.
By the way, what do you mean by "bag of nickels"?
Bag of nickels to beat her about the head and shoulders with. The Steph is a proponant of violence. I am only violent when playing hockey and not a woman beater, but, the idea is definitely tempting.
Thank you.
You are the first person who said it in a way that actually made me want to give her the dishes(although, I did like Penny's suggestion about mailing them).
I have said before to someone, "You loved him once, he can't be all bad." and, I did choose her. I would still be with her if not for actions she took, issues and all.
I will have to consider your words before she gets here.
However, the fuming inside is just my natural response to her anymore. It definitely hurts me more, but, unfortunately, I did love her and she is the only person in my lifetime who has ever truly made me hate them. I don't hold grudges and am generally about one of the easiest people to get along with that you will ever meet. But with her, I am affected still(don't get me wrong, I am happier than I have been in years and am very happy I am no longer with her, which is one of the reasons feeling like this is so frustrating), and that makes me hate her even more.
Send her both sets... broken. If she wants em.. let her have em...
No I am kidding. Just let her have em. Dishes aren't worth you being angry. Plus like dimlightslittlecity said it shows you are the bigger person.
dimlightslittlecity: I agree with your position that Larry should probably just give her the dishes and be done with it. However, the fact that Larry will be the bigger person for having done it? WILL be totally lost on her, unfortunately.
Penny Shagwell: Obviously, my "bag of nickels" comment shows how outrageously immature I am. But in my defense, I would only hit her once. Heh.
Dani: as of about 5 minutes ago she doesn't want em so I guess I have dishes. and here I had decided to give her all of them but wasnt about to argue the point with her cause she was already going all high-pitch-psycho on me. I hope this is the last night I have to deal with her.
So I read almost everybody's response except for Penny Shagwell because of length OBVIOSLY! That woman is verbose! I have to be honest, and I hate to tell you it ain't over. This month is dishes next month it's light bulbs.
Sorry dude.
Fast Eddies or East Side should cure this. Can't beat a few beers a nice cigar and a round of Golf either.
Quote I'll steal
"Women can't live with'em... can't..nope thats it."
i'm stingy- i'd keep the dishes. if she got everything else, she could surely pawn something and haul her happy ass to walmart and pick up a set of corelle for a reasonable price.
just out of blatant curiousity, what attracted you to this creature in the first place? it has to be one of about three things.......
1. she likes sports.
2. she's a great cook.
3. she's got bedroom skills galore.
somehow i doubt it was her sparkling wit and personality.......
Dougie: I really have no more reason to contact her after tonight until september when she unloads her storage locker and I can get the few things that I couldn't find after all this went down. Golf, sunday afternoon, maybe?
Duff: I got the dishes, check signed and the rest of her shit is gone. I really did love her and who she was, but, with me, if you screw me over I am done with you. I am honest(sometimes too much so, supposedly) and loyal to a fault, but a hate being lied to and made a fool of. and she did both after everything I did for her, all she had to do was tell me she wasn't happy and wanted out and I could respect and like her, hell, it probably would have hurt less. I don't respect her and she is the only person I truly despise.
ouch. remind me to try to stay on your good side.
Beleive me, it takes a lot, but once you are gone, you're gone.
God bless you, Roy.
Hell, I've got a shotgun. You planning on doing any shooting? If so, remember, hold the gun to your shoulder. Your dad is a funny guy.
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